FAQs - You've Seen the Body. Now Pick My Brain.

Got questions? I probably have the answers.

This is a pretty unusual website, after all. It’s my real name, my real life, my sexuality, my thoughts, my work - all while totally naked. So I understand if you’re curious, confused, intrigued, or wondering just what the hell I’m thinking.

Here I answer the questions I get asked most often about Shaun McMurtrie, The Exposed Bator, and this whole gloriously naked public exposure thing. Some answers are serious. Some are funny. Some may be more candid than you expected. And some address the questions people are probably thinking but are too polite to ask.

So go ahead. Read the FAQs. Be curious. Judge me if you must. Just don't assume that because you can see me, you know me.

And if your question isn't here? Ask me. I can take it.

I do get one question more than any other: "Will you expose me?"

I have created an entire page to answer this most frequently asked question:

Why publish under your real name?

For a long time, I noticed how easy it is to split yourself into versions. One name here, one self over there. But over time, I realized that the split felt like a kind of hiding.

Publishing under my real name isn't about provocation. It's about refusing to fragment myself. It's me choosing to stand in one place, with one name, and say: this is my life, these are my choices, and I accept both the vulnerability and the freedom that come with that.

What does authenticity mean to you?

For me, authenticity has come to mean noticing where my life doesn't line up and gently closing that gap. It's asking: do my actions reflect what I say I believe?

And when they don't, having the patience to bring them together.

Living openly is one way that alignment shows up for me. Not as a performance, but as a commitment to not splitting myself into parts.

Why isn't nudity shameful to you?

My body is the one constant I'm given in this very short life. Carrying shame about it feels like spending that precious time at war with myself.

Choosing not to be ashamed isn't about rejecting clothes or pushing an idea on anyone else. It's about allowing myself to be at home in my own skin.

To me, that acceptance frees up energy for living, connecting, and being present.

Why include erotic content at all?

I've asked myself: why stop at the edge of the parts that make people uncomfortable?

I don't believe that sexuality makes me less human or less thoughtful. It's simply part of me. And while I'm careful about consent and boundaries, I don't see why consensual adult sexuality has to be treated as something separate or hidden by default.

My question became not "why share?" but rather "why hide?" And for me, I haven't found a convincing answer.

The goal isn't to persuade anyone else. It's to live in a way that matches what I say I believe all the way through. I don't believe I become a different person when I experience desire, pleasure, intimacy, or orgasm. Those moments aren't exceptions. They're part of the same honest life, under the same real name.

How do professionalism and sexuality coexist for you?

Professionalism and sexuality don't compete in my life. They're two contexts lived by the same person.

I don't see myself as fragmented into roles, but I do respect boundaries and the purpose of each space I enter. This site is one of those spaces, chosen for openness.

Being sexual doesn't cancel out my professionalism or my integrity. They're expressions of the same life.

To me, context isn't concealment; it's respect. But respect doesn't require pretending to be someone else.

What role has education played in shaping your views?

Education matters deeply to me. I spent years building a life around teaching and learning, and stepping away from that career was one of the hardest costs of choosing this path.

I didn't stop valuing education. It changed form.

I'm still learning, still hoping to teach, but now the lessons come from lived experience rather than a lecture hall.

Have you worried about consequences?

Yes. That was the easy question.

The harder question has always been whether I could live with the consequences. I've thought about them a lot. I've felt some already. None of that was abstract for me and none of it was surprising.

But part of choosing this path was saying, okay, I'll carry that. I don't want to cause unnecessary harm, and I try to think carefully about people around me. But I also don't expect a life without hard choices.

I hope people respect my choices, but I can live with disagreement.

Authenticity has never meant living without consequences; it has meant accepting them with open eyes.

IDENTITY, AUTHENTICITY, AND PHILOSOPHY

Shaun McMurtrie posing naked on his knees holding a sign that says "Authenticity"

What do you hope people feel when they visit?

I hope people leave feeling like they understand me a little better and maybe feel less alone.

I also hope some men get horny when they see me. I want them to look at my naked body, my penis, my balls, my erections, and feel genuine desire. That's part of the truth I'm living.

Desire isn't a contradiction of my integrity. It's one way people connect.

I want people to leave having felt something real.

Do you see yourself as a nudist, an exhibitionist, or something else?

I'm definitely a nudist. If the setting is right and respectful, I'd almost always rather be naked than dressed. I wear clothes for warmth or context, not because I think the body is something to hide.

I'm also an exhibitionist.

For me, that means I enjoy being seen as a sexual person by other consenting adults. That doesn't cancel out the quieter joy I find in just being naked. It adds another dimension.

One is comfort in my skin; the other is the charge of sharing it.

Both are part of not wanting to hide.

How do you handle people who misunderstand or judge what you share?

I can't control every judgment, and I don't try to.

What I can do is be clear about boundaries. This space is for consenting adults who want to be here. If someone doesn't, they don't have to engage.

How do you balance openness with privacy and safety?

One thing I've learned is that openness and privacy aren't opposites. I've had to be intentional about both.

I share what reflects who I am and I keep private what protects safety for me and for people around me. That's not hiding; that's boundaries.

Being authentic never meant telling everyone everything. It means telling the truth about what I do choose to share.

I'm open in ways that feel right to me. I share much more than most, and that's okay.

How has your relationship with your body changed over time?

My relationship with my body has changed probably the most.

I was a late bloomer, and changing for gym class made me want to disappear. I covered up. I avoided being seen.

Over time, I started asking where that shame came from and whether it was mine to carry.

I still have moments of wishing I looked different, but they don't define me anymore. I'd rather live in appreciation than in apology.

What's your guiding principle for sharing online?

I start with consent and an adult audience. That's the boundary line.

From there, I share what's true for me, the parts I'm proud of, the moments that feel meaningful, and the story I'm trying to tell - and the things that make me horny.

I'm not trying to share everything; I'm trying to share honestly within the boundaries I've chosen.

For me, sharing is a choice, not an obligation. I try to stay clear about that choice and steady about the reasons behind it.

How do you decide what not to share?

More than anything, it's a feeling I check in with.

Does it make me proud? Does it make me horny? Does it reflect who I am? Does it say something real about the human experience? And does it respect the law and the boundaries I've chosen?

If I can answer yes to those, then it feels like something worth sharing.

NUDITY, EXPOSURE, AND BEING SEEN

Shaun McMurtrie standing and posing naked.

Why did you choose to get tattoos?

For me, tattoos are about memory and continuity. I think they mark the chapters that I don't want to lose: the sense of wonder that I had as a child, the parts of me that I still want to keep close.

Some are about resilience, like the phoenix on my back, and some are about joy and play, like the cartoon leg sleeve. Some are invitations to look, like my cock tattoo.

Together, they help me remember who I am and what I want to carry forward.

What was the process of getting your penis tattoo like?

People usually ask why, and the honest answer is that it was partly about attention and partly about permission.

In nudist spaces, we're taught not to stare. I respect that fully. The tattoo reframes the space as art on my body, and for me it creates a kind of permission to look right at my penis.

The big question: No, I did not have to be hard while getting the tattoo. However, to place the stencil, I did have to get hard in front of the artist before he placed it.

After the stencil, I was soft for the entire tattoo process. I couldn't have gotten hard or stayed hard if I tried!

It hurts a lot, and finding the right artist takes time. You need real trust and clear comfort on both sides.

I'm glad that I did it. I don't regret it. At events, it gets noticed, and I'm proud of it.

It's a part of my story that I chose intentionally.

Who is your tattoo artist?

The artist responsible for the majority of my tattoos is Joshua Kunkel of Ikonic Tattoo in State College, PA. He is responsible for the leg sleeve, the naked man on my other leg, part of the tattoo on my back, and all of my hidden UV ink. If you happen to visit him for your own tat, tell him that I sent you! He knows my name AND that I am the naked guy.

The artist responsible for the cock tattoo is "Boney" Joe Clark from Tattoos by Boney Joe in Zelienople, PA.

The ankle tattoo was done at Screaming Crow Tattoo and Piercing in Homestead, PA, which has since closed.

The phoenix on my back was done in State College, PA, but I can't remember the shop or the artist.

Do you have any piercings?

Yes, I have a Prince Albert piercing. I got it partly as an invitation, thinking it might draw some curious attention. What I found is that it's more common than I expected, so it didn't quite serve that purpose. Still, it's a fun piece of jewelry, and depending on the day, enjoyable in its own right.

The PA piercing was done at Screaming Crow Tattoo and Piercing in Homestead, PA, which has since closed.

TATTOOS AND BODY

A front and rear view of Shaun McMurtrie naked with a full erection.

What role do friendships play in your life?

I like to joke that my definition of friend is different from most people's.

I have a lot of acquaintances: people I love, a community I can turn to and would show up for. But "friend" for me is something sacred. It's rare and built over a long time.

Even though I'm open online, letting someone all the way in emotionally is different.

True friends are few, precious, and often lifelong. Some of mine go back decades. Lives change, but those bonds hold.

That doesn't diminish the wider circle I value. It just names the depth reserved for a few.

What is your relationship status?

Happily single.

Are you looking for a relationship?

I'm not actively looking for a relationship.

Right now, I'm more focused on myself, and I don't feel like I need someone to complete me. But I'm absolutely open to the right person.

I wouldn't want either of us to change just to make it work. They'd need to genuinely support my love of nudity and my desire to live exposed.

I don't necessarily need them to be a nudist or an exhibitionist, but I'd feel even more loved if they accepted me exactly as I am, while I accept them as they are.

For me, it's not about finding someone to complete my life. It's about finding someone who complements it. My life is complete.

What brings you joy?

There's a lot that brings me joy.

Sunshine, hiking through the woods, acts of kindness, sitting by the ocean, deep conversations with friends.

And yeah, sometimes it's me alone masturbating or exposing myself naked online or to a group in person.

All of that is just me. Being a whole person, enjoying what I enjoy, with myself and sometimes with others.

How do you define success?

Success for me is reaching the goals that I set for myself.

Not someone else's checklist, not a tax bracket, not a title.

If it's a small step or a lifelong aim, it counts when it matters to me and I follow through.

That's enough.

PERSONAL LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS

Shaun McMurtrie standing nude with a blue hat and blue shoes.

Have you ever regretted living so openly?

Yes and no.

Yes, in that some doors are now closed. Certain jobs and spaces don't fit me because I live openly and publicly. Those limits are real and I've felt the tradeoffs.

But no, I don't regret it in the deeper sense.

This is who I am. I'm not ashamed of that. Every life has tradeoffs. I made mine with open eyes.

I accept the consequences because living aligned feels worth it.

I don't wish away who I am.

What are you most afraid of losing by living this openly?

I've already lost some things because of the choices I've made. Some professional doors, and some friendships.

And those consequences are part of why I urge careful thought.

What I most fear is losing my closest friends. They're my core group, the people who know me and have stood by me.

That's what feels most tender.

What's the biggest misconception people have about your exposure?

The biggest misconception is that my exposure is about humiliation.

That's not true for me.

My fetish is pride, not shame. It's about being seen and feeling whole. Sharing my name and my body without hiding.

Some people are into degradation. That's not my lane.

I find it affirming, not diminishing.

What have nudism and exhibitionism taught you about yourself?

Nudism and exhibitionism have taught me to see my body with kinder eyes.

Putting myself out there while others see me as attractive has helped me step out of the habit of measuring myself against porn bodies or other ideals.

Feeling seen, even naked and hard, has helped me understand my sexuality with more ease.

And overall, it's been about self-acceptance rather than measuring up.

What advice would you give someone who wants to live more authentically?

Do it, but do it with care.

Talk to someone you trust or someone already walking that path. Think through the consequences, good and bad. Write them down.

Ask if you can live with the hard parts in real life, not just in theory.

If you can, go forward. If not, pause and rethink.

That's as true for exposure as any big life choice.

CHOICES, CONSEQUENCES, AND GROWTH

Would you come to my event naked, or could I hire you to be naked at my event?

The short answer is yes, absolutely, as long as everyone knows ahead of time that I'll be naked.

The longer answer is that it depends on the event and the details.

If you're serious about inviting me, reach out through the Collaborations page with information about what you're planning, and I'll let you know. If you want to hire me for an appearance, then check out the Hire Me! page.

What are some of your exposure fantasies?

My fantasies share a common theme of being openly myself and openly identifiable in public settings.

Examples I think about include: attending Folsom Street Fair completely naked with a trusted friend while he encourages men to take pics of me and hands out a business card with my name, nude image, and information so they can post online; giving a public talk at a conference about nudity and exposure while openly masturbating; or being the only naked person at a party and being recognized and photographed.

The common thread is not a particular venue but the sense of being seen naked and exposed by me real name - showing all of me.

What do you hope people think when they leave your website?

When people step away from my site, I hope they think, wow, that guy really enjoys being naked and exposed. I am proud of his boldness and authenticity.

He seems smart and confident, but also like a regular, friendly guy.

And for some, I hope that think "That naked man is hot and sexy. He gets me hard."

What do you hope your legacy will be?

People say the internet is forever.

I hope this site carries my story beyond my own life: naked, identified, and real.

It's not about shock. It's about living one whole unfragmented life.

If that's what remains, I'm at peace with that.